I hope this helps

Originally Written & Posted on FB: April 21, 2023 

For some reason I woke up this morning remembering that at some point in my singleness, I purposed in my heart to be content with my own presence. I can’t tell you when but somewhere along the way, I found peace and was at peace with being single. 

I found peace in knowing that I was already complete, and did not need a husband to complete me or to become whole. I Am Already Whole. I Am Whole. 

I also found peace after I unfollowed accounts on social media that focused on dating, singleness, relationships and marriage. (I also had to be disciplined enough to spend less time on social media as well). I realized that my feed was over saturated with these accounts and (for me) instead of them being an encouragement to “wait my turn” or “wait on the Lord” they did the opposite. Because of my mindset at the time, these accounts became a discouragement and I began to feel unworthy of the love, relationship, and marriage that I deeply desired. So I had to take a break from posting those things and from following accounts that focused on those topics. No matter how much inspiration, advice or wisdom they gave, I was not in a place to be inspired. No matter how many scriptures they gave on being a godly wife or godly dating advice, I had internal work to do before I could receive what was being shared. 

In realizing this, I was able to step away from the pressure I put on myself to be married by a certain time and I was able to do the self work of uncovering why I felt unworthy, undeserving and incapable of adequately expressing and receiving love. All of this in turn, helped me to expose my insecurities, work on them and become secure in my singleness. I became comfortable with myself and in myself to the point of no longer seeing my wait as a punishment or that I was unworthy of love. 

This allowed me to become content with my journey and embrace my process, while no longer comparing myself to others.

I hope this helps. 

Godspeed 🙏🏾💛🌻

#simplyarirenee